I was a lowly white belt at the time, rolling with a seasoned veteran who had just earned his brown, and he was having his way with me on the jiu jitsu mat. We had been going at it (not that way, you perverts) when at one point, he abruptly stopped me to make a point.
“Hook, I can feel you when you have an opportunity to make a move, and you hesitate, don’t pull the trigger, then the opportunity is gone by the time you go for it. That’s never going to work for you”
I responded back with some random jabber along the lines that it was futile, because he was so much better than me, that these moves wouldn’t ever succeed. This really got him irate.
“No, your wrong. You’re instincts are right, and you should be going for those moves. That fact that you’re thinking in such direction is a sign that your heads in the right place…”
Then he dropped this bomb.
Trust instincts and go for a bold move. Doubting your abilities keep you from trying an aggressive moves. Those moves, though they may not work at the time, are what one day will win you matches. You’re better than you think you are.
Cue my mind being blow.
I’ve been thinking long and hard about this speech I received years ago. At a time, I was training at Jiu Jitsu 2-4 times a week training for a competition (I got 3rd for the white belts. It was pretty dope, I still have the metal :)) This is heavily applicable to my game now, as where I stand, I have a 3 girl rotation. I no longer need sex, as I’m getting laid more than I actually would desire (few things can get between a girl and the already accepted D she is craving). More quantity is low on my list of desires.
I’m going elitist with my game(something I would only recommend once you get a full rotation) and approaching 8’s, 9’s, and 10’s exclusively.
Now, when I see a 10 waiting at the same subway stop as I am, I still can get a little psyched out. I mean I’m busy, she’s probably busy, and she’s sooo hot she MUST have some other guy yadda yadda yadda yadda.
What I realized is I was making the same mistake as that day in the Jiu Jitsu mat. When you start to get good at anything, your instincts are their, but they can blurred with doubt and thoughts of failure, particular when faced a opponent who we expect defeat as we percieve them as superior.(A brown belt, or a 10.) It’s in these moments, I take a step back, catch mind fear lying to my mind, trust my instincts, and go for it.
The last 5 perfect 10’s I approached I was nervous jumping into. I went back to the basics though, trusted my skills, and used the same opener/attract routine/ kino I’ve used girl after girl after girl, and you know what? All that material still works. They laugh, I grin, I hand them my phone, they enter their number.
I forget how good I’ve gotten at this at times, and until I try with the hottest girls in the toughest sets, I won’t know how good I am, and how great I can be.
Trust your gut and go with it gentlemen, you’re better than you think.